It's Okay

I think it's interesting that as a society, we seem to place a huge emphasis on the idea of being "strong." When something doesn't go our way, we tell each other, "Don't cry about it." "Suck it up." etc. When someone seems to handle things in a stoic, hardened way, we look up to them.
If, on the other hand, they cry or seem to have a difficult time dealing with it, many people will ignore them-because they don't know how to handle the situation. We seem to appreciate things handled in a strong, solid manner-but don't know what to do when we watch someone who can't handle things the same way.
But, I think there is something to be said for the person who can admit defeat, who can, for just a moment, throw themselves a pity party and expect their friends to walk beside them anyway. It's impossible to have a positive outlook on everything-and shame on everyone for thinking we have to! If something crappy happens in your life, whether or not it's your fault, you have the RIGHT to get ticked off about it.
So you're speeding down the freeway and you get pulled over. Sure, you were going about 15 miles over the speed limit and deserved the ticket. So do you have the right to get mad about it? Some would argue no. But I say, of course you do! You have the right to get angry when things don't go your way. You have the right to have a bad day. Just don't be surprised when no one around you knows how to handle it ... because we're taught to "suck it up" and "be strong."
A lot of times, when we end a relationship, we seem to value those people who can get over it easily, whereas those who struggle we pity. But people are allowed to feel however they want to for as long as they want to feel that way. But then again, even if they are allowed to feel that way, there seems to be a limit of how long the friends can listen to the "pity party" before they just throw their hands up and give up.
If something bad happens to you-you're allowed to get pissed off. Throw a pity party. You don't have to be strong in every situation. It's okay to admit defeat. Personally, I respect the person more when they admit that they are having a bad day or having a difficult time dealing with something. Those are the people who realize that they are allowed to feel however they want to, and by sharing how they are feeling, they allow me to understand them better and, if necessary, to help them if I can. Those are the people who are the strong ones. Those people who can act as though nothing bothers them only makes me wonder if they have feelings at all or makes me believe that they are not being honest or real. Those people who share that they are having a bad day risk being rejected and therefore, they are in fact much stronger than those who pretend all the time.
I personally would rather have someone in my life with real problems. I don't mind the pity party every once in a while. In fact, I'll even help you blow up the balloons.